That’s a great clarification. Thank you for being so gentle about it.

I would suggest, if you want a profound yet very easy and accessible way to invite your clients to look at this all differently, to look at Les Fehmi’s latest book, “Open Focus Living.” He’s been teaching people who to shift the way they attend to things for over 40 years, but i’ve never found anything he’s written that I would recommend.

you might find some videos more accessible. Here is Susan Shor guiding people through open focus: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1KJ-frJJFQI&t=225s Unfortunately, she is not pleasant to listen to, but the technique is astonishingly powerful. It is one of underlying principles of virtually all forms of meditation but is rarely talked about.

To put it very simply, you simply switch from focusing on objects to attending to space. You can try this right now by standing up, your arms at your side, and gently lifting your arms outward and up above your head, then lowering them back down to your sides (much like a simple ballet dancer warming up)

let your gaze be straight ahead, as you SLOWLY lift and lower your arms. Very very effortlessly and gently let your gaze be in the space in front of you, noticing with your peripheral vision the movement of your arms.

Let your gaze continue to widen and widen to include everything within your range of site.

let your attention widen to include the sensations of your whole body. Notice you can focus on the sensations of the arms moving AT THE SAME TIME as attention widens to include all sights and sensations.

Let attention wide to include all sounds. The mind may grasp at particular sounds — simply allow that to occur while still attending effortlessly to the openness of empty space.

you may notice words/thoughts arising and passing through the mind. Very gently allow them without any attempt to control or resist. Simply be present noticing the space around you and the “space” in which the various thoughts are moving.

This same sense of spaciousness can be present when considering when and what to eat, tuning in to what the body wants and needs. If cravings arise, the same spaciousness can simply allow them to be there without fighting or struggling.

if a decision is made to follow a particular routine, the various tasks can be engaged in without any sense of manipulation or control — though it may take considerable (playful, gentle, flowing) practice to get the sense of what it means to follow a routine wtihout it becoming rigid or lawlike or controlling.

Try it — I’d love to hear how it works out and drop a note here: www.RememberToBe.life